Can men and women have a 100% platonic friendship? This is the question that a friend of mine and I had yesterday. She went on to say that it's never possible and I disagreed and said that it is possible. So I did what any normal human being would do and posted the question on Twitter! The results were interesting in that 100% of females responded with a "yes it's possible" and only about 2 out of 10 guys agreed.
Now, when I think about it there is no right or simple answer to the question at hand, but I'm going to break down my reasoning. About 90% of me believes that it's possible to have a neutral friendship with someone of the opposite sex because if it's established from the beginning that the friendship will never escalate into anything greater then nothing more will be expected. To do this, I believe that it takes 2 mature adults who know how to draw boundaries because when certain lines are crossed the friendship is ruined forever *i.e. "Brown Sugar"*
The other 10% of me believes that usually for two people of the opposite sex to even strike up a conversation that makes friendship an option, there must be some chemistry there. The physical is the first layer of a person that one can judge, so if there is physical attraction wouldn't that make a friendship a little awkward? At the end of the day somebody is going to do or say something that will completely dismantle the whole "just friends" dynamic. Even if action isn't taken and both parties practice self-control, the thoughts are still there so technically the "just friends" category is a front.
The variables are never ending when trying to come up with a cut and dry answer. Are the two people single or is one or both parties in a relationship? If in a relationship, then were they friends with the person before or after the relationship started? Have they ever done the deed? Are they physically attracted to their "friend"? etc. etc., etc.
It's all quite confusing! Do you think it's possible to have a completely platonic relationship with the opposite sex? Why or why not?
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9 months ago
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They say that great minds think alike!!! I did a post on almost the same subject today. Check it out when you get a chance
To answer the question, it's very possible to be just friends. As long as there is no attraction from either person, its very likely. If there are feelings there, then things can get complicated.
of course it is. just because you men out there have at least one dirty thought per day doesn't mean women do. i have lots of guy friends i'm platonic mainly because neither of us finds the other attractive.
If the chick is talking about certain dudes and the dudes is talking about certain chicks in their lives that's the best way it will work out. If not, it will be a situation where each person think there the only person in each other life. Which often creating stronger feeling then questioning if there friendship is really a reltionship. If everybody open with each other it'll be coo.
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It won't stop us from staring at your booty if you have on tight pants becuse you know,,,,
In my opinion it is TOTALLY POSSIBLE for a man and woman to just be friends. I have a friend who even though there is 'some' attraction on both of our behalfs, we will never be anything more than friends.
yea, but its difficult, i know when i desire such, i establish a friendship first beforte the pull the friendship card - such has benefits
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