I hear people all the time talk about how many regrets they have in life and what they would give just to get a "do over". I always had the attitude that once something is done all you can do is try to correct it, live with it, or move on.
The most common type of situation that most people end up mishandling involves love and relationships. More often than not, men and women equally blame a person in their future for the mishaps that occurred in their past. It's important in this case, to let the past serve as a reminder of what you do and don't want in a partner, but at the same time you must be reminded not to let a good thing get away due to paranoia and mistrust. Ladies, the way the last guy treated you may not have been the best, but don't carry that drama over to the next guy who may genuinely want to get to know you. Fellas, the last chick you dealt with may have been sneaky and manipulative, but don't treat the next young lady as such without getting to know her.
When I look back on my past I can honestly say that I wouldn't do anything differently or that I have any regrets. It's not because I was so perfect, because God knows that in high school I had issues, but it's because I've reached a point where I embrace the past as a learning tool. Sure, things would have probably turned out differently if I would've listened to the old heads words of wisdom about what not to do, but I'm happy with the way things have ended up. Although I know that one day, if I have a daughter, the tables will be turned and I'll be the old head demanding requesting that she listen to my advice since I've been there and done that.
Everyone should try to re-focus situations and circumstances that they believe to have been for the worst, for the better. Use your past as your personal "how to" guide for approaching your future. Plus, its guaranteed that you will come across someone in life who is in a situation that you have lived through, so never hesitate to use your past to give hope to someone else.
Do you have any regrets?
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9 months ago
3 comments:
I tend to agree w/ you lil sis. I don't really have any regrets either. I look at every 'situation' as a life lesson of some sort that has molded me into the woman I am and am still becoming.
i agree with you missy. we should learn (relatively permanent change in behavior or knowledge that comes from experience or training. (i just love that definition of learning)) from our supposed regrets.
You know sis, I don't have any regrets from my life of almost 31 years (30 years, 11 months lol)...
If my life is was compared to a road/street - it would be a long street that circles around and winds all over the place - but it would be a horrible idea to go back and change the road cause who knows where it would end up...
I am the sum of all of my experiences, good and bad! I'm grateful for going thru what I've gone thru & being able to live to talk about it!
No regrets!
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