Last night the family got together for a farewell dinner for one of my cousins because he accepted a job offer in Baltimore, so he'll be moving a whole 3 hours away (sarcasm included). As usual when the family gets together there were lots of new memories formed and it was an overall good time. Between convincing my 2 year old cousin that Sponge Bob worked in the kitchen at the restaurant we were at and going down memory lane, my cousin and I had a deep yet simple conversation.
When you choose to surround yourself with people you give each person the privilege to have a fraction of control over your destiny. For example, if the people in your circle are constantly speaking negativity then whether you admit it or not that negativity will find a place to root in your mind and then influence the decisions that you make. I'm somewhat antisocial in that my idea of a good time is different from most people my age, so my circle is very small for a 22 year old. That's not to say that I'm a snob to people outside of my circle, but I know where to draw strict boundaries with people. This skill was unfortunately obtained through trial and error, but I'm glad that it came in due time.
Be careful who you allow into your circle of trust. If you are trying to make moves and better yourself then you can't surround yourself with people who are always content. If you are in a relationship then you might want to learn to draw boundaries with your single friends who are always the first in line to give advice. Align yourself with like minded people and you're sure to go far. One of my best friends from grade school didn't make the final cut when it came to my inner circle because she was always content with her situation. Everything was always good enough for her, even if she knew that better was attainable. Establishing limits with people isn't always an easy task, but it's necessary.
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**Applause** You are so very right. I try to surround myself w/ those who like myself want more out of life or those who already have what I want out of life...they keep me encouraged, and you can learn so much from them.
Word money. I always tell heads. The chosen few. That's who I mess with because that's always been my thing. Plus Virgo's enjoy there me time and you can't have that when mad heads trying to be in your business or want you to be in theirs.
this was on point!
it's funny how sometimes, you read my mind exactly.
i have a friend who i'm trying to move back to NY with. yet her financial situation is iffy and i loaned her money to go there and might be buying her a plane ticket back to LA. i did loan her the money (not that huge of an amount thank God) because I thought that if she got the job she wanted, then i would have a place to stay when i finally relocated, at least until i got on my feet. in other words, there had to be benefit coming my way. but now im just wondering if it isn't a bad idea. i mean, i don't want to live with someone i have to bail out 24/7..
meanwhile, another friend of mine wants me to move in with her. she's ALREADY in NY, is looking up housing for us, told me her plan of attack, asked me to send her my resume so she could begin shopping it around and is basically planning our life out. she's a go getter.
This post I'm going to read over and over until it sticks because you are right and I need to make sure I've learned the lesson so I can practice in real life.
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