Have you ever been approached by someone of the opposite sex who is clearly interested in you, but you aren't attracted to them? How about being attracted to someone who isn't sending clear signals as to whether they are into you or not? We have all been on both sides of the fence at some point in our life.
#1
To start with the obvious, physical looks matter, no matter how much people say they don't with the fear of appearing superficial. Most people try to front like as long as a person has a fantastic personality then physical attraction counts for nothing. That's a lie. Ladies, when you are in the mall and see a nice looking guy walk by is your first thought, "Wow, I bet he has a great personality?" I highly doubt it! Fellas, when you're watching BET and see the goodness that makes up a video vixen is your first thought, "Man, I bet we like the same kind of books?" I doubt it!Females get approached all the time by guys who they are aren't really feeling on a physical level, but you would never know it because usually instead of acting repulsed we tend to say things like "I'm in a relationship" (even when we're single), "I don't have time for dating", or the infamous "Sorry, I'm in a hurry". In high school I had no problem being blunt and telling guys right away that they weren't my type, but it seems that the older I get the less people are open to hearing the truth. I'm sure guys get propositioned by women they aren't attracted to, but I'm not as familiar with that aspect so fellas please share, what do you do when a female who isn't aesthetically pleasing approaches you?
The physical layer is the first dimension of a person that we have complete transparency with. It's the first thing that we see, therefore being the first thing that we can establish a connection with. For one party to approach another, there has to be something there that is intriguing and pleasing to the eye.There are exceptions to every rule though because even the most beautiful person can have the most bland or unattractive personality, which in turn diminishes the impact of their physical beauty.
“It's beauty that captures your attention; personality which captures your heart.”
Stay tuned for #2....
2 comments:
The fellas perspective is probably different from the Phella perspective. I used to be all about looks, but my only real true relationship was with someone I wasn't even remotely attracted to at first. It wasn't till we eventually parted ways that I realized that she was so far from "my type". I guess the L word is blind.
I always thought the phrase"love is blind" was a gimmick, but I guess not. I do look back on some people that I use to like back in the day and just wonder "why" because the physical is so opposite from what I am typically attracted to.
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